After a few failed attempts, I can't help but wonder, when it comes to relationships, what is the secret ingredient?
Yes I am only 20, and yes I can only count on one hand the meaningful relationships I've had. However over the past few weeks this is something I have become increasing curious of. Many of my friends are currently in long term relationships some spanning nearly 2 years, the majority being in their early 20s. How can this be? My best achievement so far is 6 months! I set myself a mission to find out how this level of commitment is possible and what they called their 'secret ingredient.' After speaking to two of my friends one being in a relationship for a year and a half, the other 11 months, my answer was clear. You can't possibly know what a relationship is at 20! Both claimed to have found their 'soul mate' and their remarkable abilities to never fight. Never fight! Soul mates! After biting my tongue and forcing my laughter back where it came from, I got quite worried. Can it actually be possible to find 'the one' already? One went as far to say "Nothing he does ever annoys me, he's just perfect, I love spending everyday with him." If this is the 'secret ingredient' I don't think I want it. The word perfect is something that has always made me want to run as fast as I can in the other direction, hurling as I do so.
I don't want perfect, perfect doesn't make you grow. Prefect isn't the person who pushes all your buttons and makes you face your shit! More research is needed I feel.
